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~*~ walking thru the looking glass ~*~
Tuesday, January 09, 2007
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The 'Hot' Topic::
Looks like i opened pandora's box.. hehe. Ok this is my stand. I dont mind students having bf/gf BUT i dont think pr sch is a suitable age coz at this age kids are less mature and more naive. Thus easily influenced & gullible to peer pressure. When u have bf/gf at this age the priority sort of shifted from concerntrating on studies & PSLE in P6 to getting pretty & gaining boys' attention. Macam gini dah confirm jadi minah...asyik nak melawa aje...dah mcm bimbo...lawa tapi bengap.
I dont understand whats the hurry to have bf/gf at this age coz it's not like u are ready to settle down at 12 right. No doubt u might have more experience than any Jane that has bf at 18. But what kind of experience are we talking about? A pr sch student cant even know the difference between crush and love. The BGR relationship could just be a crush, 'ur cute & i like u' kind of thing. Then the relationship tends to fizzle out before it could hit 1 mth let alone 1 wk. Why i say this is due to the fact that if another fren of the opposite gender comes along & show more concern, the so called love will shift to that person. Then it will continue so on & so forth.
Some people even have bf/gf just for the sake of showing off & collecting ex. Then the common lines while talking with friends would be:-
"Eh, how kau & A?"
"Kita dah break. Alah dia merepek ah. Bingit ah dgn dia."
"Wah, kira kau ni single la eh sekarang."
"Single? Tak lah aku dgn B la. Kita baru stead semlm. Kalau A tu kira cerita basi."
"Wah cepat seh...setahu aku kau masih dengan A 2 days ago. Ni kira bf kau yg ke berapa?"
"B is my 4th. Eh salah..aku lupa si Z. B is my 5th."
"Wah terror seh kau. U're so popular. U're so lucky seh."
Lepas tu member pun kembang la kan coz dia sangka dia popular & terror coz ada byk stead. Merepek rite.
If the person has no bf/gf in pri sch will make the person tak laku or not popular & get married late? I dont think so. Base on experience, having bf/gf earlier or later has no effect on when u're settling down. I started dating only when I'm 16 and I married at 21. My fren started hers when she's 21 and got married at mid 20s. Another fren started hers earlier than me but tak sure at what age & she only got married at 28. Oh ya, my fren's sis dated when in sec sch got married after her N or O level. She's not interested in studying anymore. So what does this show? It shows that dating when u're in pr sch doesnt really confirm u marry early or jadi tak laku. The best is to make more frens & have fun during that time. If dah jodoh, few yrs later u might meet an old fren & really fall in love. Lagi pun pr sch is compulsory education and PSLE is a stepping stone to your future. What's the use of wasting ur time concerntrating on 1 person during pr sch & then when u go sec sch, the relationship ended or u kena dump coz ur stead has new person.. then u'll go like shit why did i waste my time with him. He's soo useless & stupid. By then, u can turn back time to do better in PSLE.
I think if u have bf/gf in pr sch, the chances of indulging in sex will be higher. Thats why there are cases of gals having sex at 13. Pregnant at 13. Why waste the time with a guy that is your age & less mature la of coz when u have 10 guys whom are frens with you & u having crush on almost all of them & enjoying their company but not being attach to any. Then after that u find that eh i dont even love any of them when u go sec sch.
Ok now i'm open for comments. Feel free. If my son ada gf masa sec sch i wont be that happy. Ye lah nanti nak belikan gf present or dating dgn dia.. duit minta mak bapak. Aiyoh! Abih nanti bergayut pat fon....u letak dulu..ala u letak dulu la...yada..yada..yada...etc tapi kerja skola tak abiskan. Ok before i continue anymore ranting, let me end here. So wats ur comment? If long type pat comment. If short type pat tag aje la.
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